The Story of My Life: Conflicts

  • Church quarterly meeting 12 p.m.
  • Sorority Meeting 11 a.m.
  • Sisters Who Code 10:30 a.m.
  • Royal Oak 55 min Silent Writing 11 a.m.

I promise this happens every second Saturday! And every second Saturday I experience the same turmoil. I want to be everywhere at the same time. As a trustee at my church, I should be at the church quarterly meeting although I don’t have a particular role in the meeting. As the co-chair of the Heritage & Archive committee of my sorority chapter and a dues paying member, I should and want to be at sorority meeting. I want to be a sister who codes. And I need to be at the silent writing event so I can work towards my 2019 writing goal of completing my 3rd novel by this summer so it can be published by the end of the year.

The problem is pretty obvious, though. Right? There’s no possible way that I can attend each of these events. I’d like to suggest that the church meeting could be changed to 10a.m. That would, at least, allow me to attend that and sorority meeting. Unfortunately, the church meeting has always been at noon so I doubt they’re up to changing it to accommodate me. And the sad truth is that even if the time was changed, that would not prevent other conflicts from occurring.

Bottom line is we have choices to make as to how we’re going to spend our time. I spent a lot of time in 2018 feeling angry and resentful about committing to things I didn’t want to do for fear of disappointing people or having my priorities questioned. Not this year.

This year I will carefully consider all demands upon my time, pray for guidance, and then proceed. But once I’ve decided on an activity or commitment, I will stick with it no matter what comes up–barring emergencies or things related with my son.

I’m sure this is the best decision I’m making for 2019. I’ll keep you posted.



LaCharmine L.A. Jefferson

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